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When Amanda picked me up, I was nervous. They reminded me to breathe, and helped get the nurses’ attention when we needed to check in since apparently the office was closed for lunch (and “No Knocking on the Window!” Despite the FedEx guy doing just that.) They held my hand in the examination room, took […]

Here we go, so yeah, I came out to my dojo through Facebook. I messaged one of the owners first to be sure I had a solid foothold of support, but then I moved forward in a big way and messaged a lot of the core players there en masse. Let’s just say they are […]

I’ve never lived as my prescribed gender. Nobody could absolutely convince me. They could scare, beat, or pathologize me, but my senses are too sharp. I can hear something different in myself than the beating of a man’s heart. But I never felt that the masculine clothes restrained me, my senses did too good of […]

As I wear what I want to affirm my gender and build myself out of years of misunderstanding and cycling frustration, confusion, and sadness, I take selfies more often now to represent it better to myself. But today is TDOR, and I saw the portraits of all those other trans people doing the same, and […]

Is it a compound word? Is it a noun? Is it a verb? Or is it a descriptor? Does it mean to change one’s gender, or does it mean to change gender? What is it? Why do we act as if we know its every waking moment, awkward few steps, and tragic end? There are […]